From motorized cock rings to pocket pussies, there’s a sex toy for just about anyone. These sex toys can be used by men of any sexual orientation, but some are specifically designed to stimulate the anal area and help achieve G-spot orgasms (and, if you’re in a relationship, boost intimacy). These toys come in a wide variety of shapes, sizes, textures and methods of use. But they all share one thing in common: they can transform masturbation from a guilt-ridden, shameful activity into a healthy and pleasurable ritual.
Masturbation with sex toys is one of the best and healthiest ways to relieve stress and build up immunity—and there’s an entire renaissance of toys that are making it easier for men to indulge. Men’s masturbation toys have gone way beyond the blow-up dolls of yore and are being replaced by everything from sexy masturbation sleeves that mimic anal sensations to prostate massagers designed to elevate couples’ orgasms.
Until recently, if you told your friends that you were using a Fleshlight or sex doll, they probably thought you were sad, lonely or perverted—but sexologist Cam Fraser says that idea stems from our societal view of male sexuality as being simple and straightforward. Now, the opposite is true: sex toys have become so mainstream and accessible that even straight dudes are buying them.
And with many retailers offering anonymous online ordering, it’s never been more discreet to buy a men’s sex toy. If you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed by the sheer amount of choices out there, it may be helpful to consider what sensations or areas you’re most interested in. For example, if you’re more into vaginal stimulation than penile, it might be worth splurging on the THRUST dildo, which boasts silicone fangs and bumps for intense milking action.
If you’re more into anal play, the LELO BILLY is a great choice because it can be used by both men and women and is easy to insert. Its various vibration modes can reach all the way down your prostate—a nerve-ending-packed pleasure center that’s incredibly orgasmic and helps achieve a G-spot orgasm.
Another fun option is the Manta, which has interchangeable sleeves so you can change up your sensations on the fly. It’s also completely waterproof for some lubricious aquatic adventures and features a super quiet motor that’s very discrete.
But there are tons of cheap men’s sex toys out there for those who aren’t ready to commit to a big-ticket item just yet. Regardless of how you’re using your sex toy, it’s important to remember that masturbation is an essential part of sexual health, so make sure you’re doing it regularly and safely. And when you do, be sure to apply a liberal dose of lube to maximize your pleasure and minimize any pain or discomfort. Just don’t forget to check with your sex therapist, if you have one, before you begin playing with any new toys. You can also find sex therapists through the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline or in your community.
